On rape

I wonder if the reason why some people rape is because they know they cause lasting damage to another person. And if a person who has been raped chooses to move on and have a healthy sex life, should they be judged for it? Is that something that people have a right to have a problem with? It’s your life, why waste it dwelling on some person who doesn’t deserve it. He/she took from you without asking. They shouldn’t get the right to interfere in the rest of your life too. We scrutinize victims of rape but don’t do the same the same for the rapist. The same goes for life after rape. Why should anyone live their lives thinking about a person, or giving their attention to someone who forced you to.